Many couples find themselves in a rut after dating for a period. Sex becomes familiar and even boring. Couples today are often open to experimentation, feeling that something extreme might jump-start a somewhat lackluster sex life. Is this a good idea, or are couples playing with fire?

The answer to this question really depends on the individuals involved. Never go along with a suggestion that your partner makes if you are not completely sure that you are comfortable. Likewise, never push your partner to do something with which he or she is not entirely comfortable.

If you are both game for the idea, set some ground rules. A basic rule should be that both partners retain the right to end the activity at any time. Start slowly, with some practice runs, then discuss how you both feel. For example, it might be a good example for your first excursion to a strip club to exclude lap dances -  or not. Spend a bit of time in the club and then leave together. Talk about how the experience affected you and your relationship.

Some couples incorporate extreme events into their relationships, while others feel that these activities are taboo. If you decide to try something unusual, clear communication and the ability to back out anytime are critical to the health of your relationship.

Posted by Lisa.